We all have things that weigh us down. How much of that weight can we cut loose? How much weight do you carry around with you every single day? Are you carrying around expectations, and punishing yourself for falling short. Let that stuff go. Expectations versus reality won’t always line up, in fact, it rarely does because when expecting something to go or be a certain way, we tend to forget to factor in that things don’t always go to plan, mistakes happen, delays happen and while we can adjust to a degree for those things we can not eliminate external factors. Stop punishing yourself for things that can’t be helped. Are you doing your best with what you have? Then cut yourself some slack and be kinder to yourself for doing your best.
Do you spend time holding on to grudges? Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting. You can’t change things that have already happened. Why continue to give energy and attention to them when it can not be changed. Take the lesson and use it in the future. Stop dwelling on the outcome that has already happened and focus on the present a little wiser and more prepared.
Are you holding yourself accountable for the actions of others? That couldn’t be more unfair to you. You are not personally responsible for the actions taken or need to be taken by others. Be self-accountable only. The only person you have control over is yourself. Hold yourself accountable for your actions, but don’t expect perfection even from yourself, it isn’t possible. Be realistic in what you expect from yourself, one person can only do so much.
Stop talking yourself down. Focus more on your positives and what you are capable of than what you wish you were capable of. If you tell yourself enough times you can’t then that seed will be watered and grow within you and you won’t. This is a form of self-sabotage many of us do it without even realizing it. Try to catch the cant’s as they happen and turn them into cans. Try giving yourself a pep talk and focus on the things you have accomplished. Consider yourself a rough draft version of yourself of your potential and change the story and edit it, rewrite the conversations you have with yourself.
Do you lack forgiveness for yourself? Stop denying yourself the same courtesy you give to others. You need to forgive yourself too and move on. Stop holding yourself back by not allowing yourself the freedom of forgiveness. You are human, and humans aren’t perfect. All of the lies we tell ourselves about ourselves only serve one purpose and that is to hold ourselves back. Dont let fear of failure stop you from even trying, the only gauranteed failure is not even trying. All of these things weigh you down, if you don’t release the weight you will never fly and lift up to your highest potential.